Should You Use a Spray Bottle to Train a Cat? · Kinship

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Most cats have, at some point, done something super annoying. And sometimes they do that super annoying thing — like jumping up on the counter or biting at your toes — over and over again. When that happens, it’s logical to wish for a quick fix. For cat parents, there’s a pretty classic technique for stopping a cat in their tracks: the spray bottle. We’ve all seen the image of someone spraying a cat with water to give them a scare. The cat stops mid-action, and voilà — all’s well. Right? Actually, nope.

Spritzing a cat with water isn’t the simple solution we’ve been sold, and it’s time for us to do away with the practice. According to cat behaviorist Jennifer Van de Kieftopens in a new tab, using a spray bottle on a cat is super outdated advice — and it won’t work out for you or your cat.

Using a spray bottle is a form of punishment; you know cats don’t like to be sprayed with water (wet fur can be extremely uncomfortable for cats), so you’re spraying them to upset them. The thing is, your cat doesn’t necessarily understand what they did wrong — so they’re only learning to be scared of you. “Punishment can damage relationships as it breaks the trust,” Van de Kieft says. “The cat doesn’t understand why a behavior that seems normal and natural for them is being punished. It decreases the trustopens in a new tab between the guardian and cat.”

And if you spray over and over again for a variety of reasons, it quickly becomes a terrifying living situation for your cat. Imagine if you lived in a house furnished by a giant who didn’t speak your language, and every time you sat in the wrong place or reached for the wrong thing he gave you an electrical shock. You’d quickly become afraid to do anything. “One of the biggest problems with spraying water is that it can easily turn into abuse,” Van de Kieft says. “Spraying the cat for one thing often leads to spraying the cat for lots of behaviors which can result in frustration and mistrust on the cat’s part. It becomes abusive, particularly because it’s so confusing to the cat.”

Most people spray their cat hoping that the cat will get the message and learn what they are and aren’t allowed to do...and then they’ll never be sprayed again. It’s a nice idea, but Van de Kieft says it’s unlikely to happen that way. “In most cases, spraying a cat with water is not effective, particularly for a long-term solution,” she says. “The cat keeps doing it and the guardian keeps spraying the cat.”

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Instead of learning, say, not to hop on a counter, your cat learns to sneak around. “What cats learn is that they shouldn’t do the undesirable behavior in front of you. They will wait to go on the counter when you’re not around or not looking,” Van de Kieft says. Sometimes spraying can even make the behavior worse, because your cat comes to see you as their adversary rather than someone who has their best interest in mind. For example, Van de Kieft adds that “spraying a cat with water that is displaying aggressive behaviors may increase the agitation level of the cat.”

Avoiding punishment doesn’t mean that you have to just deal with your cat doing whatever they want. To curb unwanted behaviors, Van de Kieft recommends thinking like a cat. “The most important thing is to consider what the cat’s motivation is for the undesired behavior,” she says. “What do they get out of it?”

Van de Kieft says that counter surfing is a common reason why people spray their cats — it’s a quick way to get them down from where they are. But for them to stay down, you have to think bigger. “If your cat wants to go on the counter, consider why that might be,” she says. “Is your cat looking for a high spot to view their territory? If so, provide an acceptable alternative. Add a cat treeopens in a new tab or shelving nearby. Is your cat hungry and looking for appealing crumbs that might be left on the counter? Clean off your counter to ensure there’s nothing interesting that would reinforce your cat for being up there.”

Aggression is another reason pet parents spray their cats, but Van de Kieft says this is totally unproductive. “Cats who have a lot of energy and a strong prey drive sometimes attack ankles and feet. Spraying your cat with water in this instance can increase the level of agitation,” she says. Your cat could think you’re fighting them back, which will only make them bite and scratch more. An eye for an eye won’t work. Instead of harming them back, help them get out their excess energy by engaging in playtimeopens in a new tab — Van de Kieft recommends having a play session with a wand toy once or twice a day. This will satisfy their prey drive without sacrificing your toes.

When it comes to training a cat, Van de Kieft recommends clicker trainingopens in a new tab. It’s an easy way to teach your cat which behaviors you prefer from them — all while strengthening your bond, rather than weakening it.

Sio Hornbuckle is a writer living in New York City with their cat, Toni Collette.

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